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The Peace of Belonging

It’s been almost a week since my “Maui Passage” with The Peaceful Woman.  As I reflect back on this multi-faceted journey into peacefulness, it’s hard to know where to begin.

I could begin at the beginning, when a group of women gathered by the ocean to explore individual intentions and the purpose that brought us together.  I remember being in awe at the powerful diversity and strength within this group of women.  I recognized right away that I was here for more than my initial intention to become a facilitator of these experiential retreats.

Into the Valley of Peace

Into the Valley of Peace

I could share about the intricate lessons woven from nature and the mystical beauty of the early Hawaiian culture…of how each of these took us deep into an exploration of our own nature and served as a brilliant reflection of the stories ready to be let go or newly birthed.

But what I really wish to write about is an unexpected gift I received from this “passage” into the peacefulness of authentic being…what I’m calling the peace of belonging. It’s not that I felt unpeaceful before I went or that I didn’t already belong.  I was very much at peace with who I am, how I’m showing up in life, and the community of friends I’ve gathered around me.  But I was totally unprepared for how much I would feel a NEW sense of belonging from this experience, or that I would find such a profound sense of peace as I gave myself over to this belonging.

The ancient Hawaiian culture teaches belonging to the land, to one another, and to the divine presence that is part of everything.  It’s easy for me to feel connected in these ways, and Hawaii offers numerous opportunities to connect to the divinity that breathes through her lands (and her waters ;-).

The belonging I’m feeling goes beyond these and even beyond the renewed connection to my inner being.  This belonging is about being part of something bigger than any one of us, and about knowing there’s something being created here that will serve the world in ways none of us can on our own.

I’ll be writing more about the fullness of this experience in days to come, but for now I just wanted to share this peace :-) of my heart and to extend my deep gratitude to TPW founder, Cher Bertrand, for birthing this opportunity.  The Peaceful Woman is about personal renewal & the cultivation of inner peace…but more importantly, it’s a powerful call for women to spread our wings and to emerge as a collective force of leadership for our world.

I hope you’ll come FLY with us!   ~Shining Sor’a

Read ‘The Peaceful Woman’ poem

Peace~full Butterfly Women

Peace~full Butterfly Women by Rachel Flower

***The heart of The Peaceful Woman Maui Passage is learning through nature and reflection in an experiential, no-lecture format. Here are a few journal entries that give a glimpse of my personal experience. Yours is bound to be different but at least as rich! :-)

Day 1: Today we immersed in the native hula, exploring this graceful dance of talk story and falling in love with Hawaiian elder, Aunty Gordeen. My heart sprung wide open when Aunty and three of her students greeted us with a beautiful chant, singing us into their abundant garden paradise. Tears were streaming as we entered this sacred space, donned our hula skirts and prepared to learn the movements and sing a story of awakening the peaceful woman.

Day 2: Drove into Iao Valley, the womb of the island where fertility abounds. After a bit of ‘talk story’ with one of our Hawaiian guides, we were sent off to learn from the river and the sacred energy of the valley…a powerful opportunity to connect with our feminine nature and to release. Most everyone had a powerful experience as they immersed in the river; my own came from NOT immersing and allowing myself to release in a different way. “The journey is more satisfying than the destination” was my personal mantra for the day.

Day 3: Fire Day. Lava walk and Hawaiian sweat lodge. I’d like to burn away whatever it is that keeps me from fully connecting with the group. This wasn’t an easy day for me. I am wondering whether this is my place and how I can be more in service and connection here.

Day 4: Waterfall … Flow day. Where am I not in flow in my life? What needs to shift for my flow to return? Walking into the bamboo on our way to the waterfall, I’m flooded by answers to these questions. I need a shift in my mental perspective. I also receive a direct answer to my wondering from yesterday: “Your place is wherever you are. You serve in all that you do.” I leave the bamboo feeling revitalized.

[The longer story involves falling down a waterfall & receiving 5 stitches in my head…the power of manifesting a profound experience to punctuate the message and give the group an opportunity to dive deep into their own reflections.]

Day 5: Ocean Day … Unity. “You have all you need, right here, right now.” Enough said. I am complete.

Post Reflection Entry: The power of an experience is how it keeps working even after it is “over” … the layers of learning keep unfolding, and I’m finding the radiant peace from this experience moving through me and pulling me to act in new ways.

Posted by Sora on Feb 26th 2010 | Filed in authenticity, balanced living, joyful living, living on purpose | Comments (1)

The Gift of Being “Real”

There are so many ways to be grateful. I’ve been writing about gratitude for almost 30 days now, but more importantly, gratitude has been ‘righting’ me this past month.  This comes as a major surprise to me, since I’m naturally a very thankful person. But somehow, my heart had lost its connection to gratefulness, and as a result I’ve not been in full glow.  What I’ve discovered through this wonderful ritual of sharing thanks is that I am truly-deeply-enormously thankful to be ‘me.’

One of my new friends, Failla, wrote on her Facebook page: “If I could be anyone in the world right now, I would be me.” What a totally wonderful thing to know!  Failla is fabulous at being herself, and because of this natural authenticity, people follow her like the pied piper (or the pied drummer :-).  She makes my heart happy, not because she is mostly bubbling over with happiness herself, but because my heart sings whenever I see someone BEING completely who they are meant to be.
failladrum
So let me be honest: authenticity hasn’t always come easy for me. I’ve spent a lot of years trying to fit in, and I know most of you have too.  I’ve secretly envied people who are so pure & natural with their way of being in the world.  It might seem easy for some to find their true style, but for most of us it takes years to discover who we really are, which is often not what we were taught by our teachers and parents.

What’s complicated the art of authenticity for me is that I have so many different natural styles! I’m playful & deeply serious, practical & poetic, organized & well…even more organized! :-)  I’m very joyful with deep currents of sadness for the world, an introvert who thrives on connection, a dreamer who thrives on doing.  I could go on, but the point is that it’s taken me over 50 years to embrace the diversity within my own style that is exactly what makes me so radiant.  When I am simply being this diversity, I shine like a rainbow, reflecting the Light of everyone I meet.  What a relief to allow myself to play with ALL the colors rather than choosing just one!

And now I must admit I’m uncomfortable writing about simply ‘being’ when our world has people without homes, starving children, and crumbling financial structures that are changing just about everyone’s sense of security.  I’m also wondering why this topic came to heart this month, during the hectic holiday season when so many of us are so caught up in the doing that we forget to simply be.  Oh.  I guess that’s why.

Being, and being authentic, are two important gifts to remember at any time of year. I’m quite sure they are the best gifts we can give one another.  So, if you’re wondering what to give that special someone, take a moment to just BE together, then unwrap your heart and let yourself be real.  And, like the little drummer boy’s (or girl’s) music, it will be the most precious gift anyone could ever receive.

Shining a rainbow of gratitude your way,  Sor’a

Posted by Sora on Dec 4th 2009 | Filed in authenticity, balanced living, gratitude | Comments (1)